I know that the transitioning process is a though struggle. The struggle goes far beyond your appearance, it goes beyond your personal background. Nevertheless, the struggle is beautiful…
(Me in October 2013, two months after the big chop)
I have some tips for you and I hope these are useful for you:
- Big chop or not…? That is the question.
The word is out, your decision is final: you want to see your gorgeous curls back! You did some research on the internet and you probably read that the majority of transitioners decided to cut their hair off.
It is not necessary to make this decision; however, I would recommend it. At the beginning of my transitioning process, I decided to only cut my ends on a monthly basis. At the end, I just went for the semi-big chop. I noticed that my first strategy made the process much more difficult for me. I was insecure, I felt bad and I was very, very impatience.
- Do not start buying expensive hair products immediately.
One or two cm of your roots does not consist of relaxer, jeej! You cannot wait to try mixed chicks on your hair. However, after applying the product you do not notice any difference. Where are the curls?
Do not forget that relaxers are very, very, very strong products. The ingredients are meant to make your hair as straight as possible. It is not a guarantee that the products will work immediately, especially when only your roots are relaxed-free. I would recommend creating your own leave-in or styling gel out of flax seed. This worked very well for me. Also, pamper your hair with castor oil. Since, castor oil will make your hair grow faster.
- Do not compare yourself.
Your friend has gorgeous curls and you are admiring her. This is still okay and even cute! What often happens in these situations is that some (young) girls look at themselves in the mirror and feel bad about themselves.
Girl, you are still transitioning! Your curls are not like this, give your hair time to recover. Besides, your hair is not the only feature which makes you beautiful! I do not know you, but I know this:
– Eyes are always beautiful!
– A smile is always beautiful!
– Cheeks are always cute!
After knowing this…how can you find yourself unattractive?
(Me in December 2013, five months after the big chop)
- The mirror should not be an obsession
Staring every second, minute or into the mirror will not make the transitioning process progress any faster. It dóés increase your frustration and impatience.
Been there, done that.
- Use this experience in order to gain knowledge
Look at that, you just found a great deep conditioning treatment, which makes your hair stronger. From experience, you also know that the coconut & Hibiscus curl enhancing smoothie of Sheamoisture works better on your hair, than the curl & style milk of the same brand.
This process enables you to gain so much knowledge about your curls. The hair transitioning process pushes you to try new things in order to improve the health of your hair. Even though, it is annoying sometimes…I learned that this is for the better.
(Me in January 2015)
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Whitney Rochette (@WhitneyFromTheBlog)